5 Bisexuality Myths BUSTED!

It’s been a long time since I posted on my blog; like more than two months! Had been caught up in final year college projects (still working on them), and then some sweet family drama followed by some more exam drama. Planned to attend the Pride March but couldn’t because it was BAM right in the center of the exam window! Suddenly woke up to the realization that my baby will be turning 1 today and yet it had been dormant for the past two and half months. So I’m back for good!

  

Today I want to write about the top 5 things that some bisexuals are simply bored of hearing. Here’s hoping that next time some fellow ignorant person opens their ignorant mouth to shoot an uninformed opinion at one of us, we can direct them here so that they realize that their thinking is very mainstream and nothing out of the box and so that they can educate themselves without our intervention:

1. Bisexual? That’s not even real! Most people can’t the digest the idea of sexuality where an individual is attracted to more than one gender. Often homosexual people claim to be bisexual when they are still unsure about their orientation. Sometimes when coming out gets real nasty, being bisexual is more palatable to the audience than downright homosexuality. That probably is the reason for the general opinion that bisexuality is just a phase. This however does not mean that being bisexual is only an intermediate step. For lots of people being bisexual is the ultimate concrete reality, it's a part of our identity.
2. Bisexuals are just confused… Most uninformed people truly believe that a person identifying as bisexual is just undecided about who they want to be with, whereas the truth is that, for us the gender isn’t just that big a deal! Some women only date men who are clean shaven; some women go only for the ragged beard look; whereas for some other women, facial hair isn’t a factor at all even though they might or might not have some preference. Some men always date younger girls; some men go only for the older women; whereas for some other men age isn’t a constraint at all. Similarly some people only date people from their own gender; some people only date people from the opposite gender; whereas for bisexuals...
3. Bisexuals are Cheaters and Poly-amorous. Cheaters are cheaters. Period! Alex can cheat on Ben with Chad. Alan can cheat on Betty with Carrie. Betty can cheat on Alan with Carrie. Betty can also cheat on Alan with Charles. Alice can cheat on Bob with Alan. Anybody can cheat, but that’s not because of their sexuality but because of their lack of loyalty. Same goes for poly-amorous. Note though: the most common form of poly-amorous behavior is polygamy. Going by that logic, straight (heterosexual) men should be considered the most poly-amorous of them all (even though it’s not true).
4. All women are bisexuals. That’s just plain wrong. Indeed a lot of women are extremely comfortable around other women. Some of them are even willing to test the waters to determine their sexuality. But that does not mean that all women are bisexual. Hell life would be so convenient and easy if every woman was bisexual! But I feel that it’s the most unfounded assumption ever!
5. Bisexuals Love Threesomes. It’s simply another one of those unfounded generalized assumptions. Yes, bisexuals love sex with men; they also love sex with women; but that doesn’t under any circumstance imply that they will definitely love a threesome. Let’s consider Arya. Arya loves to eat sushi. Arya also loves to eat biriyani. But Arya might or might not want to eat biriyani and sushi together! Some people, irrespective of their sexuality, believe that sex should happen between two people only.

I either cleared a few doubts or created more confusion, probably the latter! Bottom-line is that bisexuals are real people with real feelings and although you are free to judge them, they are not really under any kind of obligation to prove anything to you or to reflect your idea of what an ideal person should be like. If you agree with my point of view, hit a like, or a +1, or drop a comment or just share it with people who could help a nice doubt clearing session.